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things I’ve learned being sick at home

I started feeling a cold coming on right before Christmas, and it hit me full stride right before New Year’s Eve. I went through a whole package of Mucinex-D, full bottles of Nyquil and Dayquil, countless cans of Progresso Chicken Soup and antibiotics for an accompanying ear infection. Just a few days ago I was starting to feel a bit better, but it came in spurts, punctuated by dry coughing spells, headaches, and fatigue alternating with restlessness. During my moments of clarity, I would try to do things around the house or run a quick errand before I got knocked back down. It was during these brief moments of clarity that I learned a few things:

  1. I should clean my closet more often. I found a pair of black boots I didn’t remember having. Bonus! I was planning to go buy a pair once I was feeling well enough to brave the mall. (Sidenote: I still might, by time I feel better it will be winter clearance time, I’m sure, and I need some biker-style black boots.)
  2. I need better robes/lounge clothes. My robe is a short baby blue chenille thing with big baby blue buttons, square pockets at the hip (convenient for storing Kleenexes, clean in one pocket, used in the other) a bleach stain and a safety pin that’s been lodged in it forever. I’m embarrassed to say that I think I may have inherited this robe upon my maternal grandmother’s death (she would have worn it with cute baby blue lounge pants, probably velour, likely cropped at her ankles, and ballerina-style baby blue slippers).
  3. This I already knew, but was reminded of: when you’re sick, the cat and dog “act” sick too, and demand to be babied and cuddled and to take up the space between your legs that causes you to wake up with your hipbones dislocated. And if you leave just a bit of chicken broth in the pan after fixing your bowl, oh boy, they know it, and they want it, and won’t stop until you give it to them.
  4. READ THE LABELS: Nyquil-D alone has the intended effect. Mucinex-D alone (okay, with lots of water) has the intended effect. Nyquil-D plus Mucinex-D has the OPPOSITE effect. I did laundry all night long…
  5. I love Alec Baldwin. Every episode of “30 Rock,” show and promo, every Capitol One spot, every NBC “The More You Know,” bit, every entertainment show gossip piece, every hissy fit, and every tweet (@alecbaldwin, yes, he’s back) only makes me love him more.
  6. There’s only maybe 1.5 hours of “bad” television on basic cable. I deepened my friendships with Kelly and Hoda and Kathy Lee, got to watch, “Cheers,” with a more grown-up, analytical mind, (Sam Malone was such a dog, what did a smart girl like Diane ever see in him?), was inspired by the daily episodes of PBS’s America’s Test Kitchen, and surfed through a lot of infomercials. Did you know there are these clips to make your hair curly? I’m sure they give you Medusa hair, so stick with the hot curls or your curling iron. 
  7. Speaking of hair, I also learned short hair is better when you’re sick than long hair. I forced myself to keep my salon appointment and convinced Sarah to cut four inches off my hair. This was a revelation, as I no longer have to push my hair out of my face when I feel a sneeze coming on, and I no longer get the creepy feeling of bugs crawling on me from the tips of my hair grazing my skin.
  8. WebMD is a godsend. I was pretty sure I was just about to turn the corner and start feeling better, when the symptoms changed from the mucus-y cold, to the headaches, dry coughs, fatigue, etc. My mom suggested it sounds like walking pneumonia. I looked it up on WebMD and sure enough, the symptoms matched! I called my doctor’s office again, and the nurse agreed, she said, “Don’t come in, we don’t need sick people here.” After she spoke with the doctor, she called in a prescription. I took my first dose of Prednisone yesterday, and aside from a bout with insomnia last night, am already feeling a bit better.

So, I’m sure it won’t be long before I’m back out on the streets, in the bars, at the shops and fine eateries of Topeka. Look for me! And in the meantime, no hugs, handshakes or kisses, let’s just fist bump. I really don’t want to be sick again.

hobos & orphans

Last week I met with two different freshman high school classes on behalf of the YWCA’s R.A.C.E. Committee’s Adopt-A-School program. Once a week a representative from the program presents to these same two classes, made up of class leadership and at-risk students, on different topics. My topic was Community Involvement, with a touch of civic responsibility thrown in (our time is so limited). After explaining the objectives and discussing definitions, the students brainstormed in small groups about community activities they would like to be involved in. Some were specific, like having a dog wash to raise money for Helping Hands Humane Shelter. Some were a little more general, such as cleaning up the environment. After their lists were complete they then evaluated their lists within those same groups, and selected the top four that were most important to them. Each group selected a reporter to share the team’s final list. The ideas included a clean-up at the park with the trash bags being weighed; a canned food drive for Project Topeka; a clothing drive. Prizes would be given to the team that collected the most trash or brought in the most cans or clothing items. We talked about prizes that were easily available to them as students to give away: picking the selections for the monthly Book & a Movie Program in their school library, getting to help the deejay make up the playlist for a school dance, a prominent place in the school homecoming parade, a brief congratulatory event at the homecoming game. The ideas were flowing and it was fun. But there were a couple of things that kept sticking in my head after I heard it. When one student stood up to deliver her team’s list, the language was different. She said, “We want to clothe hobos and give toys to orphans.” I was struck, and quietly repeated, mostly to myself, “Hobos and orphans.” Really, I was dumbfounded! I hadn’t heard these words in so long, and when I did, the context was different. “Hobo” was a Halloween costume w/ raggedy clothing,  a bundled bandanna at the end of a stick, a weathered hat and a stubby cigar. “Orphan” was a reference to  Little Orphan Annie, or the Orphan Trains of the late 19th century that transported orphaned, homeless or abandoned children from the crowded coastal cities to the Midwest for adoption. “Orphan” was children in developing countries, like Haiti, parts of the former USSR, war- and poverty-torn countries, etc. Hobos and orphans are not here in the United States, certainly not in Topeka or Shawnee County. I feel these terms are antiquated, and perhaps the use of these words used that day by teenagers was proof of a sense of removal, a disconnect from the realities of homelessness and abandonment, and the needs of our poor families. What do you think?

TSA + security checks

Just wanted to add my experience: I have no doubt that we have to sacrifice some freedoms for our security, but I have some concerns that this is the way to do it. The concern is that without these types of pat downs, an “underwear bomber,” could get past security. I’ve read nothing that claims these pat downs would accomplish that. If I’m wrong, please send me your source. My last time at the airport was about one month ago when my brother and I flew one way to Dallas, departing from Kansas City International (MCI), to drive my mom back to Topeka. At MCI I was directed into a full body scanner. Never at any time was I given an option to opt out, nor did I see any literature stating I could. After being scanned I was directed to an area nearby, no privacy, and a female TSA agent then said she was going to give me a pat down, and proceeded to tell me how she was going to do it, even saying at one point that I would have to remove my jacket. I started removing it, and she said, “Not now.” Okay. She said she would pat me to above the top of my bra, then below the bra-line and down, down my zipper (I still had the jacket on). She started, then stopped, said I could go to the next station. You might think she was waiting for radio clearance from the body-scanning image, but that clearance had already come through before she started. I heard it loud and clear, and I heard her confirm it. I asked if she was going to finish, and she said she didn’t know. I asked if she still needed me to remove my jacket. She said no. I asked why I was even stopped for the pat down. She couldn’t answer my question. Now mind you, I wasn’t asking her these questions in a challenging manner, I was just thoroughly confused. I went to the next station, and had my hands wiped, after a short period of time during which the attendee was asking her supervisor if she needed to change her rubber gloves. The response: “It’s recommended, but you don’t have to. Don’t worry about it.” I went on through, but was watching the whole time. There was no rhyme or reason to what was happening. Not only were the flyers confused, but so were the TSA employees. I hope this improves before the next time I fly.

it’s going to be a great week

so much going on in topeka this week! two meetings on tuesday, a media conference and a board meeting wednesday, 20 under 40 reception, 2nd annual shop crawl with 785 +DTI, comedy night at bosco’s, all on thursday, then fast forward holiday party on friday. just my luck, it’s all fun!